I met this guy online and we have been seeing each other since late July. He said to me that he wants me to be his gf someday and that he really likes me. Most of the time he seems interested in hanging out and spending time together. At this point we are still not official. Things have been progressing slowly. He's kinda shy (it took us 4 dates before we held hands!).
He says he looks forward to seeing me each weekend and that it's the best part of his week.
He's been working on renovating his house for a while now. And it's definitely a lot of work. Everyday he works away at it.
We had been talking about when we would see each other this weekend, and I asked him what his weekend looked like. He said that he was free all weekend. So I asked him if Saturday worked for him. No response.
The next day I initiated the conversation, and asked him how his day was, etc... Then I asked him again. No response.
Saturday rolls around, I am busy working around the house myself. I see how he is doing, ask him how his day is. He responds, so I then ask him if tonight still works for him. No response.
I finally hear from him 5 hours later. He said "Sorry, I lost my phone." So I say, no worries and then ask him if tonight still works.
I understand sometimes people get busy. But this is not the first time this has happened. I get that sometimes people are too busy working away at things and guys aren't really into texting.
But is it really that hard to send a quick response saying they are busy and can't make it. Or even say next weekend or something?
It just confuses me because he shows signs of interest, but then doesn't respond to my texts.
I know I'm probably over analyzing this. But I try to be an understanding person. And I have been taken advantage of too may times.
Thanks for your help!!
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Unfortunately with online dating and dating in general some people "keep there options open" maybe he's not indicating it to you as he's keeping you as an option "playing the feild" .. "trying the cheese platter"
im surprised he has not leaned in for a kiss as of yet after four dates. Usually as humans to actually obtain the more than friends feelings towards one another we need to have a kiss now and again.
Sometimes there's always a rational answer to why men don't answer calls, texts, or even arrange dates. But your dates are not progressing i wonder maybe if he's trying to tell you its not working?
Maybe if he's not such a coward you could get him to talk? if not then im afraid its time to move on to the next