We hadn't had any physical intimacy yet & for our 4th date he invited me to his house for the first time which as it turned out I couldn't make because I went to look at a car that I ended up buying & it all got too late. We made another plan & at the same time I asked him if we were still going away the following weekend, he went quite then said um yes we still could do that... meantime the following day I got a text from him telling me he liked me a lot but wasn't in a good space mentally and was still struggling to get over his ex girlfriend, needed time to come to terms with it & shouldn't see me or anyone until then!!! Is this an excuse? and/or what did I do wrong? Can't help but think me bringing up going away didn't help P. S He did mention he had trouble performing when his wife of 17 years had an affair before their divorce but that was a long time ago... Would appreciate any input...
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Sounds like he wanted to use Date 4 to tell you he wasn't sure about things. When that got cancelled, he was stumped. When you called to reschedule, it would have given him another chance to slow things down, but you leaped ahead and started talking about the weekend away. He didn't want to get into the whole slow-down on the phone... so he lied. And then realised that was a shitty thing to do, so texted a come back. And that obviously negated the need for the 4th date to tell you that stuff to your face.0
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