Sorry this is so long!!
I like this guy that I work with, same company but different areas of work, it is well known across the company that he likes another girl that works with me behind the bar, but she has a boyfriend and he has admitted to me that he no longer wants to be with her or see her but he can't help having fallen for her and if she texts him he starts liking her again, and she does nothing to stop this, she's stringing him along.
Anyway we all went on a staff night out and we were drunk, I was talking to this guy at the bar just he and I and was basically telling him that he's a mug for liking her when she's stringing him along and he agreed and said that he can't help who he's fallen for... The same night she saw us talking and took me into the toilets and told me never to talk to him again because he and her are in a situation that although she has a boyfriend she wants to be with him etc. I ended up staying that night at the guys house in his bed (strictly PG - no cuddles or anything!!), and she went mental the next day at him...
She recently broke up with her boyfriend, according to some people "to be with him", and now they're starting to see each other more (more than they already were before!) and are apparently bf and gf now!
I tried to snapchat him the other day saying hey, and he opened but didn't reply. Now at work he's being super blunt and not joking around like he normally does with me... And I just get so upset!!
I'm starting to like this guy, and I really want him to see me as a potential date-- what should I do? I don't know how to talk to him without coming across as needy or desperate and people around us know that I like him. Can I ask this guy on a date? I wanted to say something like "It's a shame, I would have liked to get to know you better"
- Yes - say "It's a shame, I would have liked to get to know you better - maybe we could go for a few drinks?"Vote A
- Yes - just outright ask him on a dateVote B
- No - it's awkward and cringe-worthyVote C
- No - you'll only get yourself hurtVote D
Most Helpful Girl
Girls can totally ask guys on dates! But a big factor is that he's um... taken or whatever you call that. If that's how she treated her ex, then imagine how she'd treat the new guy. If she breaks his heart, you'll be there to pick up the pieces. If that's not how it works out, then: HE'S NOT WORTH IT! You can be friends with him until his "girlfriend" gets ticked or something. Does he even REALLY know this girl?1
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