When you look at someone's dating profile, what immediately makes you not want to message them?

I'm going to go with:
Bad spelling/sentence structure.
A picture of their truck.
They are obese.
Them saying anything implying they are only there to hookup.
They live too far away.


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Most Helpful Guy

  • -overweight
    -ugly
    -has children
    -wants children
    -wants to get married
    -long distance
    -duck face
    -obvious baggage
    -any kind of 'DO NOT MESSAGE ME IF YOU ARE A DOUCHE' type disclaimer
    -memes/inspiration quotes in place of photo
    -no body shots
    -blurry/indistinct pictures
    -heavily Instagrammed pictures
    -all group shots so I'm not sure which one is them

    I'm also sick of seeing Macchu Picchu, drugged tigers in Thailand, and Platform 9 3/4 in King's Cross.

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    • ooo
      Wants children or has children.
      Two more good dating site deal breakers!

    • Before someone yells at me for the 'wants to get married' thing, I should clarify: I mean when they put that down as their intention for being on the dating site. That's desperate and worrying.

    • oh for sure.

What Guys Said 12

  • - Poor spelling is a put off. (Minor typos or shorthand is fine.)
    - Any mention of tumblr.
    - Any mention of sprituality, astrology or anything like that.
    - Really short hair.
    - Any mention of polygamy, short term relationships, or casual sex.
    - Has kids. Wants kids.
    - Evidently right wing.
    - Considers booze or pubs as a hobby.

    I came up with more than I expected I would.

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  • I have a open door policy anyone wants talk they can message me
    if they want judge me/ hate me hooray all the way i really don't care
    i accept all people no matter who they are i been like this all my life
    i don't message people cause I feel people can reject me so i leave
    the decision to be there's and i really don't care what people think of me
    i am who i am why should i hide things and live a lie to people i love all
    people for who they are if they wish to hate me that's on them haters will
    hate

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  • very first thing? the picture obviously.

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  • Obese, saying they definitely don't want to hook up, or if the site has a question on anal or blowjobs and they answered no to either.

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    • anal is really that big of a deal to you?

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    • OKCupid has a 'how often do you want sex' question too, and that is CRUCIAL. Trust me. Mismatched drives destroys a relationship.

    • @meatballs21 yeah, that's why I used to like OKCupid. They also have questions on anal/oral sex as well. Plus, you can rate how important their answer is, which really helps sort out potential matches.

  • Vegan/vegetarian
    Duckface
    Massive college debt and a low paying job.
    Every picture is in a bar
    Looks high maintenance
    Man hating (you'd be surprised)

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  • i find it creepy to mesage random people LOL

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  • A girl claims she's a feminist or liberal.

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  • A nice, loving statement like, "NO DOUCHEBAGS OR LOSERS! FUCK OFF!" in her bio.

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  • Poor spelling, only group shots, only pictures of them in their swimsuits or underwear, and not having a good bio. If you chose to write something there make it specific unique and interesting.

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  • Anyone taller than me. I'm 5'6. I automatically count tall women as being out of my league.

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    • I've dated taller women (I'm 5'7), they don't all expect you to be 6'3 - certainly many do, but that doesn't mean should rule out all women taller than you because they're 'out of your league'.

  • Errant spelling, grammar or punctuation.
    Too many abbreviations.
    Smokes tobacco (at all)
    If she seems condescending in her writing
    Overly masculine face and/or morbid obesity
    Religious
    Right wing
    If anything else brings her intelligence into question
    Says she likes Justin B.. (I can't write that out...) - Perhaps redundant considering last point.

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  • Comments that sound angry or annoyed towards men. "Prove me wrong! Are there any REAL MEN left? Creeps need not respond. " This sort of thing turns me away faster than anything.

    Also comments about them being tired of one night stands makes me avoid them. I don't want a woman that has one night stands, but especially if she has had so many she is tired of them.

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    • omg dudes do that to.
      Its like oh I"VE BEEN HURT SO MANY TIMES LOOKING FOR SOMETHING REAL OMG
      like yeah that's a GREAT tagline! HOWS THAT WORKIN OUT FOR YA BRO?

    • I don't make a point to read male profiles, but I am sure they do. I imagine it is as big of a turn off for girls as it is guys. Lol

What Girls Said 3

  • A generic description that tells me absolutely nothing about them. e. g. "I'm nice, funny, and know how to have a good time. I like hanging with friends and doing stuff." Uh, that sounds like pretty much everybody. I want to know what you're ACTUALLY like, haha.

    Bad spelling/grammar and pictures of their trucks are also on my list, hahaha.

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    • ooo yeah, and on the nice part, if they make any mention of being "the nice guy" i'm like NOPE

  • The truck picture and spelling are spot on! Mine are:
    -No profile picture
    -smoker or heavy drinker
    -religious
    -conservative
    -hunter
    -guys who look like they live at the gym

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  • Bad grammar. Lmao.

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