After many years of searching u finally found the who I thought was the one... We had an instant connection and we were so into each other. We work with each other and she has made me food and brought it to work for lunch and I have brought her small treats like candy. Walked each other to our cars out of work. And then all of the sudden she started playing hot and cold with me wtf... After 2 weeks of hot cold I confronted her and she said she has been seeing someone for 3 weeks now. Wtf! She never mentioned this. So now I'm upset and ignoring and she has been trying to get my attention for 2 weeks and finally this week she started to cool down... I'm really upset at her for not telling me I feel like I have been led on and used...
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You have no reason to be upset with her. A person's feelings change. And sorry to say, but you didn't man up when you had the opportunity.
Here's the thing--if you like a girl, you cannot waste anytime bringing her into your life. If you waste time, a faster moving (i. e. more dominant) man will get the girl. It's that simple. She probably did like you--but another guy made a move first--was she supposed to wait for you? Know if you were ever going to try to get serious with her? For all she knows, you might just be a friendly flirt and simply flirted back--because flirting is fun. You can flirt with people you aren't serious with. How is she supposed to know? Based on your description, everything was just playful banter at work--did you ever actually ask her out? Did you ever go on a date? Even if you did--why can't she still choose another guy?
I'm not bashing you in anyway--but you need to adjust your mindset a bit. Move faster and don't hold expectations on how other people should feel or behave.1
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