Anyone ever wonder if those nice guys actually suffer from some kind of a social anxiety disorder? Many of them are so afraid to ask a girl out, I can't help but wonder.
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For a lot of them I think that is likely. I grew up hearing a lot of bad advice about women. I remember one poor guy that this girl started screaming at, calling him shallow for asking her on a date, when they weren't already close friends. Everyone in the school acted like he was a pervert just for asking out a girl he thought was cute.
Male sexuality often is demonized that I think a lot of these nice guys, just have no idea how to attract a woman. They end up thinking they are suppose to be friends, and then they can start dating. To the guy befriending the woman is a part of the courtship process, but women are now claiming that is deceitful for pretending to be her friend. When this false courtship ritual, the guy was following, fails he thinks the woman was just playing with his emotions. Then he gets angry and bitter. These guys are also being taught girls don't care about looks and stuff, girls only care about finding a nice guy that treats them right. I think the biggest problem is no one is teaching men the truthful basics on how to approach women, or what a woman wants.
I think this confusion may add to or even cause social anxiety disorder in some guys. These guys are being taught if they ever stand up for themselves then they are selfish, and that isn't what nice guys do. They aren't being taught a balance on standing of for themselves, and taking other peoples feelings in into consideration. Basically it is bad parenting brought on largely by single mothers that don't understand how to teach a boy strength.3