As the title says, I've never been on a date, and have never had a boyfriend.
I've never been asked out, or heard of someone being interested in me. Men are nice to me, sometimes it seems like they could be interested but then it turn out I'm just an acquaintance, or a friend.
I'm at a point where I just don't know what it is about myself that repels guys. Every single girl I know has had a boyfriend. A friend of mine isn't drop dead pretty but she always has some guy interested in her even though she's already in a relationship. And me? no one. I've never even kissed.
I am a rather nice person overall, good listener, likes to debate etc.. I have flaws but everyone has some. I talk to everyone and am not a snob.
Every time I read about possible reasons for being in such a situation, the first thing mentioned is look so here is a link to my face:
I don't dress super girly (like gossip girls) because I find it hard to walk in heels, I don't put on a lot of make up and sometimes put on none at all. It is also quite complicated to do a neat look to my hair since they're wavy/curly. Could those be reason enough?
I know maybe I should start loving myself more, maybe I just haven't met the right person, but still how can I ignore the fact that I am just plain invisible to men and that they don't take any interest in me, or that they would be nice and then make me feel like I'm bothering them (when I am really far from clingy) ?
I am not looking for pity or else, I know there are much worse things in life but it affects my confidence somehow. I am going to be 25, and most people I know are in long relationship, going to get married, have kids or celebrating their 7/8 years of relationship and I have yet to get on a date. I can't help but feel pathetic and ashamed when I think of it.
It's just like something is oozing off me or maybe I am not aware of how i come off to others.
I am rather shy and introverted (I test as INFJ on personality type is this is relevant).
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If you are in college, find a club, or college activity, that you like. Once you get around some people with some of the same interests as you , you will meet someone. If you are upset or feeling depressed, find a counselor to talk to and don't give up. Look at it this way, at least you have not been in a dozen bad relationships. You must like yourself first before you can be in a relationship with anyone.0