Started dating my friend's brother I met at a wedding. He ended up asking me out and we had an incredible first date. We have so much in common and he clearly was very into me. He ended up spending the night but we just made out and had fun. He's a divorced 32 yr old from the burbs and I'm 29 living in NYC.
He called me every day the past week and chatted and was so excited to see me. He invited me over to his house that he bought with his ex wife and I went since it was on the way to my parents. It wasn't about sex, so that's out of the question. All we did was make out and he knew I wasn't interested in sex too soon.
I was sick that day but didn't want to cancel, and was stressed from work, so when I showed up, I wasn't really feeling well and tried to put on a good face. However, I ended up saying several things to make it seem like I didn't like his suburban lifestyle, and said I felt uncomfortable being in his ex wife's house. He knew I was uncomfortable and so it got very serious rather than fun. BUT, we still ended up having some fun and made out a lot and he was very caring to me not feeling well. He even offered to get me breakfast in bed the next day and drove me an hour because I was running late to meet my family and he felt bad. He was very chatty in the morning and kissy and acted like everything was fine. When I left he said have a nice weekend and talk to you soon and gave me a big hug and kiss.
Later that day I sent him a text thanking him for the ride and saying it was nice to see him and that I forgot my charger at his place. He said he was sorry about the charger and that he would give it to his brother to give to me this week. I said thanks and teasingly asked if that meant I wasn't going to see him again. He didn't respond. The next day I wrote him a note saying I was sorry for not feeling well and ruining the date he planned for us. No response. Is he done and can I do anything? He still seemed to like me when I left him.
- He's not intersted anymore and give up.Vote A
- He's on the fence and maybe I/his brother can fix thingsVote B
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He may be doing his own soul searching of everything that happened at his house. However, being you were sick, not yourself and with being in another state of mind, it natural, I know, m to say things that you may have not meant. My only Question here is: Did he know you were under three weather?
With him rudely putting you now on his pay no mind list, he may have gotten Now another sour ball sign that with what you implied the nite before about being "Uncomfy in the Ex's house" and the joke about the "Am I ever going to see you again?" He may be doing even more Thinking And Sinking lower believing that there might be a problem in having a relationship with you because he feels you may be a bit too Opinionated and there probably would be a War of the Roses down a beaten path.
I am being honest here. I am seeing the sure signs of someone who is feeling that things may not be right in the chemistry department and he is feeling trouble down a dead end road here.
If you don't hear from him, don't contact him until he contacts you. Don't involve your brother neither. This is your business, not a family affair.
Yes, in a Real relationship, where couples have been together for awhile, it's unconditional love that will bring them back if it is true love. But with a newbie relationship that needs nursing and nurturing in order to see where things are going, a First Impression many times can make this go South and dead in the water and the bad vibes cannot be shook no matter what. They go on That as meaning a No Go.
Good luck. xx0
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