To the point where as you're thinking about that person you feel a little heartache. I want to ask this guy where do I stand with him but I don't want to come off too mushy, needy, or feeling like I'm pressuring him. I'm very bad at expressing my feelings, because I'll be a little hurt if the person doesn't feel the same way about me or better yet "friend zone" me. So I'm very cautious and skeptical of who I give my time and energy to. So what should I do?
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This is quite normal. It's an interesting feeling. Kind of a lonely, yet hopeful feeling is how I describe it.
Here's the deal. You have only one life to live, and there's someone you are totally meant to be with. Is it this guy? Who knows. But there is a guy that's dying to be with you and someone that you'll be with for many years and someday, when you are both old, and he dies... you just wish you had one more day with him or one more week. Yea, isn't that happy to hear?
Well... every day that passes RIGHT NOW... is a day you could have had in the end.
With that being said, you need find out what's up with this guy right now. If he's interested, you can start down that path and see where it leads. If he's not interested, wouldn't you rather know now so that you can keep searching for "the one" so the days aren't just ticking-by without you being any closer to finding that person.
If this guy isn't interested, that feel you talk about will really hurt you bad (and that sucks), but it will fade over time, especially when you find someone else that lights up your days.
The point here is... you are just standing still for no reason. Good or bad, you need to move forward... because whether you do it today, tomorrow, next week, next month... the result will be the same. It was either meant to be or it wasn't. So find out already!
Be strong, be prepared for the worst (maybe you'll get the best), and know that you're doing the right thing... because you are.
Have you spent any time with this guy? Do you talk to him alot? Sounds like you need a one-on-one date to see what's going on. A neutral, non-alcohol date where you can talk.1