We had 1 month fling, then she played the hot and cold game with me for 6 /7 weeks, i confronted her with it, we ended up having unprotected s. x 4 times in 4 days , during her most fertile period. She told me she stopped taking the pill afterwards..., something i thought she still did. we started seeing each other again , but her daughter came back from her hometown , she has a 7 yo kid, and she started to act all distant again. we did kiss and i know she wanted to be intimate with me. last Saturday we saw each other again, i tried to kiss her she told me i shouldnt. we did give a small kiss, then we just sat on her sofa, and she put her legs across me. so i stroke her legs, and slowly went to her more intimate spot... she didn't say no right away, then she told me''no''. and that she was tired, so i said, ok ill go, put on my jacket, shoes , kissed her on the forehead , then she grabbed me, and started making out with me wildly, we almost had sex again, but we didn't want her daughter to burst in, so we didn't after all. I told her, ill come by tuesday, today, we can be alone then, being intimate without anyone around. i must mention i dated this girl in july, for a month, she was really into me, during the 6/7 week hot and cold game , her daughter spilled the wine by telling me, when i was going for a walk with her and her kid, that she has a long distance relationship -_- in just a matter of 2 weeks she commits herself to someone she doesn't really seem to love. so as today, she told me yesterday its better we dont see each other, or have sex... she told me the same thing a week ago. she pulled this of more then once, and it really wears me down.. i feel exhausted, by always trying to make her realize that im the one she loves, why else would she do things like that, and whats up with the unprotected sex, and not telling me she isn't taking the pill anymore. should i speak out, write her a letter, or just be quiet and let her find out that im the one she wants!
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Guys like you exist :) you sound practical, caring, and confident guy in general. And from what you've told me i can tell this women doesn't appreciate this much at all. If this isn't the 1st nor 2nd time she's done this then I'd advise you to let her go. Relationships shouldn't be this straining. It sounds like she isn't putting any effort towards keeping your relationship. I think that you should stay out of her life for now. she doesn't know what she wants, but won't tell you what's bothering her or anything. She isn't cooperatinh, trying to fix whatever is bothering her. That's a big sign that your not as important to her as she is to you. You've done your best to help. Don't feel bad for walking away.
You can only do so much. Walk away. Your deserve and can get SO MUCH BETTER. I know you care for her but think about yourself too! What kind of partner do you want? Do you really want ALL of her? Not just when she's at her best? Is this something you can't live without?0