So these days most people sleep together first, or within weeks of meeting someone. Things happen too soon in some cases an the stages of courting and truly getting. to know the person doesn't seem. to happen.
People tend to learn about eachothers bodies before their minds. Fair enough to those who want and have FWBs. Thats their choice but I am talking about dating and enjoying getting. to know someone.
Guys I meet after one date I know I dont know them enough for sex or anything else. I do kiss early on but other stuff doesn't need to be rushed. Most guys seem. to have crazy sex drives and no self control but thats a whole other issue. Thing is if someone wants sex after date two its very obvious they are not after a relationship or any commitment.
I have only met one guy who was patient and decent my first ever bf. An he was just 17 when I was 19. Guys I met after him have all been wasting. my time. Saying they love me for sex, saying they want to move in to get sex, wanting me to sleep over for sex. Had many dates but only with my first bf. An a guy cooked for me one time but even he couldnt. control himself.
I understand humans are sexual beings but why the need to rush it. Guys I've met up with aged between 22-32 have all been wanting sex straightaway but claimed they want a gf. As soon as I meet a guy I dont feel like having sex and do not feel that until I know about them and spend time with them but guys are visual an feel it quickly right?
Out of the 8 guys I've met 7 were too impatient and one was totally patient. So I am uncertain as to whether iwill find a guy with a little bit of patience. I am talking 2-3months max.
- Yes- People rush into things far too quickly these days46% (6)64% (7)54% (13)Vote
- No- Some people are patient and capable of getting to know someone54% (7)36% (4)46% (11)Vote
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Firstly both the polls might be true? and I agree with the problem here.
you've just been with a bunch of the wrong type to put it bluntly. There are plenty of romantics like myself out there.
It all come down to, are they looking for someone they want to see themselves with in years to come, or are they looking just first looking for someone to sleep with and maybe keep for a while and then decide if they want to move on or not. Depends their moral code.
My advice, just tell the guy I'm not sleeping with you in 2-3 months and see if he lasts, if not you filtered out an asshole. Good luck.1