I'm a virgin, and I'm nervous about being alone with him a little. it's our 4th date and he wants me to go to his house to watch a movie which I'm okay with. and I could see myself having sex with this guy but I'm just not comfortable yet. I need more alone time with him without sex to feel comfortable
is it normal to talk to him or kind of tell him I'm not comfortable with it yet ahead of time? do people often do this? should I tell him I'm a virgin?
also I was molested and that's why it takes a bit longer to feel comfortable should I mention this before hand?
and lastly what kind of signs should I expect that would initiate he wants to have sex so I dont freak out about if it happens?
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You need to be clear with yourself that you wanna have sex with him (do you want to be your first time with someone who loves you and cares for you, with whom you can see yourself in distant future) or not (maybe you are not ready). If you want to have sex with him, tell him that you are a virgin (sometimes your first time can be painful, so it is good for a guy to know that so that he can be gentle and doesn't make you feel awful). Maybe he is not ready to sleep with a virgin or doesn't want a romantic relationship, but just sex. It doesn't mean necessarily that he'll grab your boob. It can be a part of the foreplay, but if a guy knows it's your first time, he'll try to make it easy for you- pull you closer, maybe a heavy make out, kisses on other parts of your body (not only lips and neck), grabbing your a*** or even stimulate sex over clothes (it is pretty nice if you're not ready to loose your virginity and it can loosen you both up). If you're not comfortable with something, just say it. Just relax and enjoy.0