I don't understand women at all. In high school, I got real close to a girl and never had the balls to ask her out. She then moved on and I am kicking my self every day because of this. Never really liked anyone else since. Just recently, I got these signals from a girl I knew for a while that suggested she liked me. I was pretty certain on these signals and didn't want the same thing happening again. We hung out a couple times, talked, and texted. She then told me she "didn't like me like that". What makes me mad is I don't have luck with women at all. I don't know what to say, do, etc. I am a real nice guy and it makes me mad that all the assholes at school always gets the girls. Ahhhhhhhhh!
I just needed to rant.
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First of all change the way you think. If you think that you can't get have something then you won't, if you believe its already yours then you likely get it. Its called the law of attraction, wiki it.
Secondly we don't necessarily go for those other guys, we complain about them just as much as you, but unlike the "nice guys" they're come off more assertive and confidant which (at least for me) means that if I ever got into a place where I'm bitting off a little too much I can count on him to be my stronger half(I don't mean beat up other guys...thats insane).Also it means that he wouldn't depend on me to stand up for him. He's independent, that's hott no matter who you're into.
Plus because the come off slightly more confidant, and yeah we're confusing confidence with cocky, they're a bit of a challenge...girls like to chase a little too, you know.
Idk, Even though I was on a dating strike...here's how my cute super nice guy friend got me to start dating him: Platonic. Buddy! Platonic, Flirt, disappear. Teasing. Concern about my daily life, flirt, give me advice, get appropriately touchy wait for + response then suddenly platonic friend, Flirt even more...hug, disappear for a little bit, platonic, slightly less concern. Now I'm curious, over my ego, and he hasn't been an jerk I start to consider that him and I would be a pretty nice thing. I start crushing...and can no longer tell if he's crushing back.
I become compelled to get his attention, suggesting outings (him tricking me into asking him out) where I'm wearing my "d@nm!" outfits, classy/covered but when I walk through a room I hear a few under the breath, eye poppin, "d@nm!"
I tease him a little . Him, poker face but flirting a tiny bit more...then bam I gleefully agree to start dating, because really I was excited that I was RIGHT, he was SO into me. And...I feel like an idiot, I knew what he was doing, he got me second guess myself just enough to give him a real chance. And I got use to the idea, because well...he's cute and we been friends long enough that that there's a lot of trust and respect of the each others personality, which means almost 0 fighting.0