So I met this girl through an online dating app and we ended up going on a couple dates and things were going well. I felt we were giving good vibes on the dates, she initiated a lot of our conversations over text, we were flirting, etc. However, my emotions got the best of me and I DTR'd too early. I told her how I felt and asked her what she felt about me. She told me how her last bf wasn't into her as much as she was, she's really busy etc. She pretty much avoided my question. And she said she only wanted to stay friends, so at that point I feel like giving up. But right after the conversation she asked if we still wanted to go to this game that I proposed to her earlier and she wanted to share a book together for class. I make another mistake by telling her that I wasn't looking for a friendship and that my whole intention was to date her. She responds saying that the time we knew each other was too short and that she is firm on staying friends now, but not necessarily in the future. I can tell it's awkward, but I feel like she's still giving off signs. Should I just give it time?
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You moved in too fast on your First formal date, sweetie, so this gave her a mixed bag of blues right there. And she most likely gave it some hard nose fact thoughts that you wanted something More than she does right now, so she has to be this Honest John in studdering everything straight out as she "Avoided my question" she is trying not to have to explain herself anymore.. it's clear, dear. I see the writing on the wall.
Stay friends for now. The best relationships start off by nursing and nurturing a friendship that could possibly bloom into something more Real down the road. And it doesn't have to be down this beaten path just because she wants to be buds right now and just feel things out. She has asked you out, wants to hang out so this is a good start and a good beginning to your beguine. No one says you have to stay hooked at the hip in waiting on a whim and a prayer, so if you see someone you might want to date, no strings attached, just go for it.. the ball is now in your court.
If you do feel awkward after all of this, then maybe it is best to not even be friends. It's your call, your choice and being that the future looks uncertain with her and you do want more in store, there is no guarantees here but death and taxes.
Good luck. xx0