Lets not go into details but basically, any guy I ever really liked.. liked me to a certain extent but God forbid they would become more serious with me. I have tried giving guys who I usually wouldn't go out with, a chance. Mainly because I enjoyed their company and they were nice guys. That would end because things never escalated (mainly from my side).
So I have given up, my parents are looking for someone for me. I am a die-hard romantic who always thought it would happen organically. I am ok with the arranged marriage but its like the death of my dreams. That one day I would meet someone, that the pain and torture was worth it. Its not real life, I know but it was my escape from the constant blow to my self esteem. After so much rejection and bad luck I have decided to give up. That I gave it my best shot and basically, its not possible for me to get the guy I really want. But, how do I find happiness in this? It is my situation and I can't really do much else anymore. I don't even want to, all my friends have found great guys and are moving ahead in their lives. I'm a really nice girl, funny, humble, objectively good looking (because I'm told so all the time), intelligent, stable etc. I have tried improving myself but I think I'm tired now. All I would like to ask is, how do I find happiness in being so alone and how can I alter my mind about finding companionship (note how I don't say love). Thank
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Since you are talking about an arranged marriage, maybe you could tell in what country you live and about your cultural background. It would help a lot in understanding your situation. Also it would help if you eplain what you mean with God has forbidden you to get into a more serious relationship. If I understand correctly (please correct me if I don't) you have the feeling that God didn't approve the relationships you have had, and therefore He made these guys to break up with you?
In general I can say that if God really has frustrated your previous relationships, it means He cares about you. He could have some special plans for you, but you have to be patient to understand and see what they are. The best way to find out is by talking to God and ask him from the deepest of your heart. Tell Him about how bad you feel and that you are desperate and ask Him to tell you why you couldn't find your love yet. After you have to listen to what you feel in your heart, and interpret it in words. God will never leave a believing soul in darkness, but sometimes we have to find the way out ourselves. He just gives us small candles to show us the path, and we have to look very well to see them.
I think you shouldn't give up to find your love. It can be that you haven't been looking for the right characters, or maybe you didn't meet the guy that was meant for you, or maybe the guy that is meant for you isn't ready for it yet. If you really believe that God has had His hand in your relationships, I'm sure He will give you the answers to your questions, when you open your heart to Him, because He is our loving God and will never abandon those who love Him :)0
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