My best friend has two children, and is a single mother. She has been on her own for 3 years. She met a guy 6 months ago, and they get along really well, she isn't ready to have him fully in her life, because of her children, She wants to get to know him more, and gradually introduce him to the kids Thing is he keeps pressuring her to be more involved in her life, and meet her family and complains he only gets to see her when she has free time from her kids. He even went in the huff for days not speaking to her, because when he asked her if the relationship wasn't going to move forward yet, she told him she wants to take it slow, as she is not ready to have have a full on relationship so soon. He is accusing her of not caring enough about him, and calls her selfish. I think he is the selfish one, because he has no kids and no commitments at all. He says his patience is wearing thin with her. Should he be more patient or should she move forward quicker?
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Yes, he should Practice more patience for it isn't easy for someone who has other obligations and baggage to boot to Involve someone else who cannot even Begin to understand how tough it is to raise kids by themselves... this one is already showing his own signs of child pattern here.
He is being Selfish, pushy, complaining and not compromising one bit. However, I bet my bottom buck if bud were to become one of the family fellows tomorrow, his tune would sure change and perhaps not want to stay long for even the first holiday meal.
It takes a very special person to be in someone's life who has an already made family. It's easy to Think that everything is peaches and cream until they find out it can be hell in a hand basket... I watched my own sister have to endure it with a second husband, his brew and all.
Good luck. xx0
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