I've been with my girlfriend for over a month; she's 17 and I'm 19 living with our parents if it makes a difference. We got into our first fight this week. Her last boyfriend didn't let her smoke weed, but I don't mind such things so she's started back again. I was surprised to find out that she's actually kind of a pothead. She called me asking could I buy some for her and she'll pay me back on her payday. I had to make what money and gas I have last so eventually she started relentlessly asking her brother could he take us and I can ride with them so I did. Come to find out she buys weed from this house that several guys live in. Either her older sister or brother takes her typically. She told me one dude hit on her sister, and they asked my girl herself if she had a boyfriend and she said yes, and they said "If he messes up then FWM". When she came out with it she said the guys asked did all of us want to smoke inside knowing her boyfriend was in the car apparently, but her brother wasn't having it. When we were alone later that night I told her I didn't like the fact that she went to some guy's house for weed and told her to just let me get it to her from now on. I also asked her how would she feel if I bought weed from a bunch of girls who asked if I was single and did I want to smoke with them. She never gave me a straight answer to the question, instead she just explained she didn't want to bother me to get her weed cause I act mad about stuff like that sometimes, which is true, but I'd rather her bug me than do that. When I realized she wasn't gonna straight up apologize and agree to not go to those guys anymore, I told her "night". She tried to kiss me, I didn't kiss her, she asked me "So you're not gonna kiss me?" and I ignored the question and said something about she needs to get in. Neither of us has texted in 24 hours since. I don't want to give in and text her, since she's in the wrong, but this is messing with me. I need opinions.
Fight with my girlfriend; haven't texted each other all day?
What Girls Said 2
You're both in the wrong. Despite the moral and legal issues of what she is doing, it's her choice, not yours. You can't change her. If you can't handle this, she's not right for you. She also doesn't seem to respect you, nor does she seem to care how her habits are affecting you.1
Well, you know girls get real bad when they smoke weed.. If you know that it's not good, Then why do you let her smoke again in the first place? So it's not just her fault.. Don't blame her for all this problem.. You're the one that started it.. But I'm not saying like it's a bad thing... I'm just saying it in my POV.. So do you love her? I know you do.. But does she feel the same way? I'm not sure.. She disrespected you by smoking with guys.. But I think she's not herself.. She's the immature, smoker kind of girl... Not the kind of girl you fell in love with.. Right? :) So, I don't ask you to force her to stop, because you have no right to do that, it has to come from her... But you can confront her and ask this very common question that 90% works in every relationship... " It's either me or the pot " ;)1
What Guys Said 3
I wouldn't cave in and text her, if you do this you'll appear weak in her eyes and this will cause all manner of disrespect on her part towards you.
I would argue that she is already disrespecting you and is refusing to take into account your feelings, she's young, she's naive, she's immature, she's 17. That's all there is to it.
If I was in your shoes, I'd break up with her. You're 19, you're young, you've got so many good years ahead of you, so why waste those years on a girl that clearly isn't worth it? Just my 0.02.2
You're wrong for withholding your love (kissing), when you both non verbally agreed to drop the issue. She is wrong by putting herself in that situation tho.
If I were you, I would text her apologizing for how you took it, but not for what you said. She shouldn't be putting herself in a situation like that. She can always have the guy meet her publicly to make the trade.0
She sounds immature, which is to be expected, dont pussyfoot around either, let her know if she's not going to respect you or listen to you then you are done with her, but also give her a 2nd chance she didn't really do anything that bad. Also should probably lay off the weed0
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