I've recently started hanging old with an old friend I hadn't since for like 15 years. I wasn't sure at first if they'd just be platonic hang outs, but I'm like 90% certain he does like me, has been very touchy and called me attractive and held my hand. He is funny, sweet, we get on and I feel very comfortable with him.
I've only ever had a few dates and relationships that lasted a few months before, and am not v romantically/sexually experienced. It sounds bad, but part of me thinks I should just get this out of the way a bit with this guy even if we don't end up being together for a long time. Most other guys aren't very forward with me or I cut them off or push them away.
I do like him, but he is not amazing looking at all. But I feel safe and comfortable with him and he is a virgin and never had a gf so I feel less pressured. I'm never sure how *much* I really do like any guy and tend to have a massive guard up and to push people away. I've never been w someone I really liked before.
Since he was my childhood friend, I care a lot about him and don't want to hurt him. He is not very confident and is very vulnerable. He hasn't got any friends where we live and struggles to make any. I don't want to break his heart if I freak out or change my mind and we break up. I can't be just friends with him either because he is massively attached to me. I'm worried he wouldn't deal with it too well if we broke up.
Helllpp. I would be thankful for any advice/input :) ? x
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Don't force yourself into anything you aren't ready for emotionally. If you don't feel completely committed to him, then don't lead him to believe that you are.
On the other hand, It doesn't really matter if he is amazing looking. The guy I like at the moment is bald, has super thick glasses, and someone asked him if I was his daughter... (awkward) basically not attractive at all, but we get along so well, so I just allowed myself to enjoy his company, and my feelings for him are getting stronger and stronger. The things I used to find unattractive about him (the baldness and glasses) now make him cuter to me...
Don't be one of those girls that throws away their soul mate for someone more attractive, but don't be the person who "settles" because you don't want to hurt him. If he likes you then he needs to know the real you, and you should bring your worries to the table. Let him know how you feel, and let him know that you don't want him getting hurt in the end. Put the ball in his court.0