I feel like i meet guys and they try to get me to go home with them and I'm just trying to figure out if I put off some vibe that says "I'm easy". I am totally not that girl and I have to continuously turn guys down but it's like once they know I won't hook up with them, they want nothing more from me. What makes a girl perceived as date able and what makes a guy think, I just want to hook up with her?
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"What makes a guy think that a girl will hook up with him?"
Let's start with that.
Most guys don't think anything, they hope. Some might say they know, but in the end, until the deed is done, we men are really just trying to take things from one step to the next as smoothly as possible. Some of us perhaps not so smooth-myself included. This is why people call it getting lucky-which I hate, it infers that a man would be lucky to have sex with a women. What the? Because unless you're a model, or Justin Timberlake, sex is never for sure. I don't like it, but I didn't make the rules. So if I talk to a chick, and can keep her engaged, then I know I'm doing somethin' right. If it's tit for tat the whole night, meaning, if everything I'm throwin' her way is reciprocated, then I know I can keep going, and keep leading right up to and including sex. If she backs off, goes and talks to someone else, hangs with her friends for long periods of time without me, talks to other guys, then I know to just get her number and move on.
Another thing to think about- you're still young. And what is the number one thing young people usually engage or endeavor to engage in? Sex! Now I don't know your history or current outlook, but let me just state for the record that whether or not they are willing to admit it, all men are dogs. We didn't choose to be-so don't judge-it's simply the way we are wired. It's science. Don't take my word for it, look it up.
So wherever you're hangin', partying, or whatnot, if you talk to guys, they will think you are interested. So if you're not, then don't lead them on. And if sex isn't something you're down with straight out the gate, then you are meeting the wrong men and or hanging at the wrong places if what you've stated above is true and a common occurrence.0
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