Well i dated a guy 8 months ago, and things were amazing but unfortunatly he didn't live in my town so we didn't get to meet often, we went on total of 5 dates, where we had sex and he slept over at my place whenever he was in town for work, but things didn't get serious because he said he didn't have time for a gf, he had applied for his masters in another country and didn't even live in my town so chances were small.
We decided to remain friends but didn't really talk for 6 months, and i thought ok he is done with me.
But than i found out that he had moved to my town via his fcb and he hadn't contacted me, but than after 3 weeks he reached out and wanted to meet.
When we met we went on a long walk and had an amazing time and talked about our summer and things that had happened, and it wall went back to the way things were, it was not awkward and we had a lot of fun. He by the end told me that i shouldn't hesitate contacting him and i should come over for coffe. He didn't kiss me or anything, and no sex.
Well after that day i went on 2 weeks vacation and came back and asked if he wanted to go on a bike ride, i wanted to take things at a slow paste, and be more friend type of thing, but unfortunatly he had to work that day , and said he would contact me when he had time.. but he hasn't done that yet..
Well there is 4 questions im wondering here.
He didn't try to have any sexual interaction when we met, so is that a good thing? did he respect me?
He hasn't contacted me yet.. so was he just lying?
He also told me he is leaving in December to go to middle east to work as a voulanteer for 3 months, is that why he isn't contacting me, cause we won't be able to go any further than only friends?
I am very good at the no contact and giving space. We met on a dating app, and i dont have it anymore but my friend does and i saw his profile on there, so is he not into me?
thanks for your time!
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With all this information, This is only something that he can give you the answer to.
Based on this you guys are really close which is great. His respect for you is deeply admired.
Honestly, You need to call him and ask him. Get him to open up on whats going on.
It sounds like he is trying to not hurt you with whatever he is hiding whether that be because he is leaving soon and as such doesn't want to get close again because that could hurt you in the process or whether it is something else. Only he can tell you and you need to get him to open up about it. Make him feel comfortable and want to be open about what is going on. Honestly the best way to do this would be for you to open up about how you are feeling about the whole situation and how unsure you are. If you make the first gesture of really opening up, he will probably follow.
I think we are all victim to over analysis (I always over analyse) but until you look around the corner to find the answer, you will never know. You will just be standing their continuing the wonder what is around the corner and that opportunity may be lost a couple days down the track.
I hope it all works out.0