I lost 90 pounds of weight to be more attractive to girls but I just can't shake off the insecurities that I had when I was fat. What should I do?
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It's ugly duckling "syndrome". Basically, you're used to being that heavier, less attractive person in your head even though your body is an improvement and (I assume) what you want. Improving your body, wearing clothing styles that make you feel good, and things like this CAN make a difference, but they're not going to change you entirely. They're only the springboard to getting that excitement and motivation to keep improving.
So you need to figure out what it is that is making you insecure, you need to do what basically amounts to troubleshooting and ask yourself "what's the problem, what are ways to create setups to test the issue, and how can I fix them PERMANENTLY". I could go on all day about this or that regarding things that will help in self-improvement. But really, it all starts with some brutal honesty with yourself.
YOU KNOW what your own issues are internally if you dig deep enough. The issue people have is that it makes them uncomfortable and vulnerable to admit this to themselves. You need to realize that confronting your issues isn't going to kill you. Yes, it will be very uncomfortable depending on your issues. No, it will not be a walk in the park. Yes, it's going to take time and effort.
But the struggle is well worth it. If you can shape a mentality to go along with your new body, I can sincerely promise you that the high you get from this improvement will start you on a path to keep going. It's the healthiest addiction, and it feels amazing!1