I asked out the guy I like a month ago. We've been messaging and hanging out since then, but I've mostly been initiating all of it - once he messaged me first and once he asked me to hang out. So a few days ago, I decided to not make contact with him and see if he would care enough to contact me first. It's been 4 days and he hasn't messaged or called or invited me to hang out with him. How much longer should I wait before giving up on him? Or do you think this is silly for me to do? Consider that he is a shy guy but I have been very clear about how I like him very much and he shouldn't be nervous around me (if he likes me) since I've made it obvious that I like him. I also said to him that I wanted to split the contact initiation 50/50 because "I don't want to become more invested than what you're interested in" and he agreed to that.
- Wait one more day then give upVote A
- Wait a few more days then give upVote B
- Just message him now!Vote C
- Other; please comment belowVote D
Most Helpful Girl
It sounds like the 'shy guy' is also a Slow guy and doesn't care neither way if he talks to you or not, hangs out with you tomorrow or even today... he doesn't have enough gas in his tank that I feel it takes to even be a friend who gives a rat's behind, sweetie.
You have way too much on the ball to be bothering with a junk car that may never go anywhere. Give him another shot and just say hi and let him respond to that. If he puts you on his pay no mind list, put yourself in First gear, your peddle to the meddle and hit the road for someone who has More----Drive.
Good luck. xx1
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