Sigh, I guess it's the sad truth. I honestly don't think I am that bad looking. When I see my pictures (that I post on online dating sites or facebook) or in real life (sometimes) I feel like I am pretty or decent looking.. but when I go to places like a club I don't get hit on? In fact some guys are super mean to me on online dating sites... telling me just horrible stuff like " you really think you have a chance with me" (that is what somebody literally said) and I've been told the same thing before. I guess I was "going up" :( but honestly I think it's so rude and mean that somebody would just say that to somebody instead of considering their feelings like a prick... which brings me to another question "Why are some guys total jerks?" But back to the main question.. Do I not get hit on because I am fat/ugly? is that why my past relationships failed and why guys only want me for sex and never a relationship?
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No, it's more likely what you project. You're insecure (that's why you ask this question). Your lack of confidence is projected towards others. I also had this problem (and kinda still have it), and I realized that when I act more confident, women tend to look me more.
Think confident, and you'll act confident. Guys like confident women; women that look powerful and proud of themselves.
I doubt you're obese (which will be a turn-off), so you're just probably a little overweight, but you say you're not ugly, so then this is not the reason why men don't approach you, it's more about what your project.1