there's this guys and he was texting me last night and suddenly he asked "do you want to be mine?" and i said yeah and he said "you have to try really hard" and all that and so i asked him what we are and what it means and he goes "we're just talking" what the HECK? WE'VE BEEN JUST TALKING SINCE MARCH! I'm not kidding! we met in march and started talking and just now we're "talking"? does that mean I have to wait 7 more months before he asks me to be his girlfriend? He's a year older than me and he's a guy that gets sexual with me and asks what dirty stuff i think about him and stuff but what should i do? I obviously have huge feelings for him and stuff but i don't understand how i'll let him go without hurting him and myself.
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I've seen this happen a lot on here. My first advice is always to just drop the dating scene until you are mature enough and until you have your life together. This means done highschool and university or having your career off the ground. This is the best possible advice I can give you, the chances of you following it is close to 0 so I will offer the next best advice.
This guy does not know what he wants, you are confused because you think he would since he is the guy and he is older and what ever other reason. But he doesn't, this is just a testament to my first advice; you are both too immature for a real relationship, but I digress... In these situations, you need to make up YOUR mind and you tell him what YOU want, don't fucking ask him, he has no clue and will give you vague answers or try to change the conversation until you go crazy. You TELL him what YOU want and this forces him to think about it and make a decision. If this seems odd or too hard it again just shows how unprepared you are for a real relationship. Stick to school and creating your future, then work on finding a boy.0