First let me say im sorta a independent person. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 7 weeks now. I feel like he's getting really clingy and annoying. He texts me all the time, wants to be around me all the time, and we always have to be touching when we are together. Now let me email something first. I'm a very committed dancer and am at the studio 2-3 hours everyday during the week and double that on weekends. I barely have time for school or to relax at home, and that's the way I like it. I love dance and would pick it over everything. So the first thing is on the weekends he wants to be together like Saturday and Sunday and I keep trying to explain that I don't have time but he just doesn't understand. He asks me every Friday what I'm doing on the weekend and I reply with dance and he gets pissed and doesn't text me for the rest of the night then goes and complains to my friends about how busy I am. We are also both in marching band and we sit together Ron the bus on the way to the football game and he always wants to hold my hand and have his arm around me and cuddle. in my opinion... the bus isn't for that... it's for talk to everyone and having a good time. I'm a social person who likes to talk to other people on the bus and he gets pissed when we don't cuddle... and at this point I'm so annoyed I don't give a crap. I'm gonna do what I want... he also always text me all the time... and like I said before I'm so busy with dance that I don't always respond and he get pissed. Then this week my cousin came home from the Marines and he found me at school at lunch and gave me a huge hug and I was so excited to see him... i mean why would I be. And my cousins attractive. .. and even though he's my cousin my boyfriend was still jealous and pissed. Am I overreacting? Like girls would this be annoying? Should I cut it off?
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Miss, I'm the same way with my wife. At least with the touching. Last week she told me she is 'touched out' and pushed me away. So I picked my balls up off the floor, I apologized and I layed off for a few days. Touching a girl produces pleasure chemicals in the brain as well as a hard-on and pre cum. So that is the payoff for the guy.
You can tell him what the problem is. But, I think you need to move on. You need to find another guy that is less attentive, more secure and requires little affection. The guy you have is fine for some gals, but for your personality it is like mixing water with oil. Just try to let this guy down easy as it sounds like he really is into you.
Even if he fixes the problem he will slip up and be back at it in a week or two. There is s saying... without effort water sinks to its lowest level. That is how it goes when we try to change our nature into something we are not. He is relaxed with you and is showing you his true nature. Anything different requires him to put on a false persona and is not authentic nature.