Just to clarify I'm not trying to start any hate with any race, gender, or whatever. Just want to get honest opinions. So I prefer nerdy, short white girls, but I get hate for one reason or another. First I'm tall and black also a bit of the nerdy side. I get hate for preferring white girls, hate from preferring short girls, and hate for just about anything to do with my preference. Honestly why do people take so much offence to what I prefer?
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Women get the same though. Some guys are really annoyed if you prefer tall men. And if you prefer white men. I'm black and I'm not into black guys and I've been called a sell out before over this. Black guys have been blatantly rude and disrespectful if I'm out with a white guy they assume to be my bf. (sometimes he is, sometimes he isn't. I have friends too ya know.)
I don't find it personally offensive. That doesn't mean you're not racist, though. Please don't confuse the two. I don't know enough about you to decide that, and even then subconscious factors beyond your own admission or reflected in decisions beyond my observation would be part of any complete determination of that as well. Even if you were racist, your dating preferences alone don't deeply affect me in such a way that I feel personal offense. I really don't care. But again, I'm not into black guys and I'm not most people you encounter.
This isn't limited to women. Its just you may be talking to women who don't fit your type. Regardless of interest, someones pride may be affected if you say you're not into whatever they are. The question of, "Well, whats wrong with me?" will arise even if they had no interest in you before. You're rejecting what they are, and that may strike a nerve. It does the same with many men. It's just that you are not attracted to men... Seeing as no straight man would be affected by your preferences in women, or at least not in the same manner, it's not going to have the same effect. No offense, but, Duh. Kind of an obvious answer...
Also, note that not approving of exclusive preferences is not necessarily the same as being personally offended. It often is, but sometimes they really are criticizing the way you think and your limitations separately from feeling personally hurt or slighted.
You'll have to learn to get over it. That's life. Everyone will have a comment on your business one way or another, especially if you tell them about it.0