He has a depth and calm to him that is really intriguing. I'm not super attracted to him physically although he has a lovely smile. So am I being superficial or does physical attraction really matter?
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Physical attraction does matter, of course. I think what you're asking is, "Should I compromise?" My answer is that you should do what's in your rational self-interest, which involves compromising on some things and not on others.
For example, if your goal were to date Tom Cruise, I would say that you should abandon that goal, because the chance of success would be virtually zero. On the other hand, if your goal were simply to date someone who has a job, the chance of success would be vritually certain; so, I would recommend pursuing that goal.
This particular issue that you have is somewhere between those two extremes. Where exactly, I don't know. You should try to get an idea of what your chance of success is, and what chance of failure you are willing to risk, bearing in mind the potential reward.0