Ok so me and my ex broke up in a really bad way. Thing is we both had feelings for each other but she complicated stuff and broke up with me. I still miss her and keep hoping she'd come back and if my intuition is right and if I'm reading the signs right she still has feelings for me. But because we had so much bad stuff between us she's apprehensive about doing anything even though she tried a couple of times and I think it was really hard for her.
The thing is I meat a girl and we get along great I'm attracted to her and I like spending time with her and she apparently is into me also. We haven't defined anything yet because it's too early but we have a great time together but on the other hand I feel bad because I keep thinking about my ex and hoping she'd make a move but at the same time keep wanting something not to happen because I'd have a really big problem.
Thing is I feel good with this girl but I remember how things were with my ex and they were great and it never felt like that before and I keep missing her. I feel horrible because me and my ex it was perfect most of the time just her complicating screwed it up but with this one I just don't know yet.
The only thing I can come up with is to just leave this stuff alone and not think about it too much and just go with the flow and see where life takes me.
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so apparently you haven't come to the terms with your ex. i am definitely feeling what u experience cuz i am experiencing the same thing. message me if you want.
so long story short, i want to tell you that please do not date anyone until u really turn the page from this chapter of your life. your heart (and my heart too) tells me that u ll get back cuz it wants that way it is not intuition. without knowing the background of your relationship, i can tell you that you wouldn't bu in the first place if u r meant to be together. there are really few people getting back together and stronger after bu and ur odds r really low u ll (and i ll) get back with my ex. start from this point by accepting that u r not be together. otherwise u cannot continue to the other stages.. acceptance is really important. when u feel something or remember how things were with her, just journal. and keep that journal as in word maybe.. maybe by the time u will notice that u need to actually talk to her one last time about everything to be able to move on... do not look for answers why you broke up.. and do not even ask her if u ever talk. this doesn't help but cause pain.. i have many things to write honestly but dont wanna leave you with wall of writing.
really all u need is acceptance.. otherwise u ll never move on and ur heart will mislead you always telling you that u ll be with her someday.. but that some day highly likely will never come your best choice is to not date someone to not hurt her feelings or not prevent something that might be actually a good relationship in your healthy time (as love-wise heartache and healing-wise)
hope that helps.1