I was born with a mild hearing loss which has caused me to have a speech problem . I'm quite understandable but it is noticeable . My hearing loss is really only an issue if I'm in a big group of people or there's a lot of background noise . I've been able to have a completely normal life, regular track education, college graduate, professional job .
However, I haven't had much luck in dating . The guys I've gotten involved with have told me that I have the traits that I think make a good girlfriend-sweet, easygoing, smart, hot, nice body, good listener, sense of humor . Yet they don't want to have a real relationship with me and instead date other girls (if you're thinking I put out too soon that's not the case; I don't have casual sex) . I'm wondering if my speech problem makes them ashamed of having me as their girlfriend and don't want to deal with the issues of my hearing loss, such as hanging out in groups at a crowded bar . I will likely not say much because I can't hear the conversation . I did get made fun of for that even in college (aren't people supposed to grow up by then ? ) so maybe they liked me but their friends gave them crap about it .
I guess I'm wondering if I'm on about this . Guys, would it be a problem for you to have a girlfriend with a hearing loss and speech problem even if she can function normally ? Am I always going to have a smaller dating pool because of this ?
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It's true that your dating pool will be smaller, but I think that in your case, it's a positive . Anyone who can't see past a single difference is probably not dating material . After all, the guys whom you've dated probably have not been 100% perfect either (and who is ? ) .
I know that you'll be able to find someone who not only sees past any problems you might have, but who appreciates your uniqueness--someone who loves you not "in spite" of your difficulties, but because of them . It's clear that you have a lot of positive qualities . Don't let your self-perceived flaws drag you down . Stay positive and keep moving forward !0