I keep seeing posts around the internet shaming women (especially short women) for preferring taller men, I don't want to hurt shorter men's feelings, but I don't find guys under 5'10 physically attractive to the point where I don't even see them as potential partners. Guys above 6' especially 6'2-6'3 are simply much more attractive. I can't help it, I feel what I feel. Am I being shallow?
- I am being shallowVote A
- I am not being shallowVote B
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I think all this talk of 'shallowness' is silly.
You should do what's in your rational self-interest, which means compromising on some things and not compromising on others, all of which should be aimed towards the maximization of your happiness. To give a couple of examples, the goal to date Tom Cruise is virtually impossible and therefore obviously irrational and therefore should be abandoned if you had it. At the other end of the spectrum, the goal to date a man who has a job is very possible and therefore is obviously rational. The goal to date a tall man is, I think, somewhere between those two extremes. To decide whether it is a rational goal or not, you need to contextualize it in terms of the difficulty and likelihood of success versus what it would add to your life.
One thing's certain, though: you don't owe anyone anything. But, the corollary of that is no one owes you anything either. As long as you respect every other individual's right to pursue his own happiness, you should not feel guilty for pursuing your own.2