I have a rough time dealing with the current narrative of dating:
-"All girls deserve love."
-Males are boys until they have proven themselves men.
-A man is unworthy of love until he has proven himself.
-His girlfriend is gracious enough to stick around. If the guy slacks off, she is justified in kicking him to the curb.
It seems like if a woman is single, it is only because she has chosen to be. Not by lack of attention, and skills aren't even a requirement, but simply by looking at your options and saying "naw, I feel like being single right now. Guys are losers anyway."
Meanwhile, it feels like the norm for a guy is to clamor and compete for whatever attention he can get. We talk about how girls deserve all kinds of compliments, and that men must deliver. But a man receiving a compliment is an undeserved boost to his neanderthal ego.
I mean, in most cases I've ever seen, when a girl and guy break up, he is left single for at least months, or years. While the girl goes through as many as 4 or 5 rebound guys.
To put it another way, it's easier to be single on your own free will when you have a CHOICE whether or not to be single. Most guys don't have options, which is why we may seem a little too eager when a girl is nice to us. We can't pass up an opportunity because we "don't feel ready" or "need time to discover ourselves." We need to show we are available whenever any sign pops up, and women seem to demand this sort of attention, since "real men approach."
So are any girls on here involuntarily celibate or single? Could someone tell me more about the girls side of things? I'm hoping there's actually something that resembles balance in the dating world.
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I understand your frustrations, I do, but it isn't all roses and butterflies on our end, either.
Guys will say "well, you're not involuntarily single if you've rejected guys!"
While that's true... if my options are currently
-Creep who won't stop texting me, says he's in love with me, after knowing me for 2 weeks
-Guy 2 years younger who has the IQ of a brain damaged pretzel
-Weird guy who tried to molest me in a movie theatre
Wow it doesn't feel like much of a choice lmao. It's not like we're saying "let's just stay single because we feel like it" it's more like, no one who we like has asked us out.
Guys *only* ask out girls they like. They don't *usually* have to deal with the hard part of letting people down and getting all kinds of reactions. (bitch, slut, guilt trips)
Girls can get asked out by anyone.
I will admit guys have it harder but don't pretend girls have it so easy, and also, we don't reject guys for fun.2
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