Because they don't want to be alone on Christmas n' all. See I recently taken a shine to this waitress, but then it just now occurred to me that she might be looking for someone right now because she doesn't want to be alone at Christmas.
Now if this is the case, which it appears very likely it is (I'm gettin' a 'looking for a boyfriend' vibe from her), then there are some things I need to consider:-
- I shouldn't take it too slow right? I can't spend now until early next year slowly building up a more substantial relationship with her. I kind of have a deadline of early to mid December perhaps?
- Secondly, timing may well be key. As in, I might want to put in the work between now and early or mid December, and then at that time ask her on a date. How do I know whether to go for early December or mid December? Again I could easily end up too late; someone else beat me to it.
Is this a misconception though? .. I dunno' it's probably a relatively common feeling right? The "gotta' hook up in time for Christmas" feeling I'm saying.
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On the contrary, I think assuring her that you guys are in no rush is the only way to go.
Personally, I have to deal with a work-related holiday party every year, which I have come to simply call "singles awareness night", and in the past I've made the mistake of buying two tickets two months in advance despite being single. I did this with the hope that I might be able to progress far enough with a romantic interest to take her by the time the party rolled around, but planning relationships around timelines never seems to work. Things will always end up developing at their own rate.
The furthest ahead you should be thinking with this girl is whether or not you want to get her a charming little Christmas present, which is a flexible goal because you can choose to make it more or less elaborate depending on how things progress.1