there's a guy I met. We have a lot in common and he always talks about how he likes me not just because of my looks but also because of my intelligence and he thinks I'm a pretty cool girl over all. He's super nice and giving, like a prince charming. But he's so attractive and we've kissed very sensually (no sex or anything close to that but very sexual kissing) we also cuddle and watch movies sometimes or go on walks. One time we got drunk and cuddled then I went home early in the morning while he was asleep. He said he wished i stayed for breakfast.. and was being super friendly. I'm just having trouble understanding what he wants.. like does he just want sex? or do you think he actually likes me?
I've had too many similar experiences, where a guy turns out to only want one thing.. but we click so well and are very alike, so I could see why he would want more from me but I'm afraid he doesn't. Oh and by the way, I found out he's slept with 15 girls. :/
Any tips? What do you think?
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I feel like I say this way too often. Stop putting yourself on the sidelines and making him the star. Instead mulling over what he wants in your head until it drives you crazy, you tell him what you want, and see how he reacts. You will know right away his intentions. If you want to find out some roundabout way or somehow "get it out of him" THAT is how you will get lied to, manipulated, used, told what you want to hear, and confused. If you have clear intentions make him aware of them, as you would want him to do to you but hasn't. Why aren't you being clear with him? UGH, it is getting frustrating saying the same thing to everyone. No, it is not any harder for you, your case is not special. Don't you know the basis for ANY healthy relationship is HONESTY and COMMUNICATION. Neither of which you are doing successfully at the moment. That shows me a red flag that you are not ready for a relationship. And if you fear rejection, that shows me even more that you are too immature for a relationship.
Sorry if I sounded mean at all, I'm sick of answering these types of questions because there are about 40 of them posted every day and the answers are the same. This is the best way. Get on it!0
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