Ok, so I met a very handsome atractive guy on a dating website. He was always very polite, very friendly, didn't gave the creep vibe online at all. So I went to meet him for dinner one night at a very public place.
I got there, he was all normal, very polite small talk during dinner, always asking normal things like favourite movies, music... he was actually telling me ideas for our next date already. When we finished dinner he grabbed me for a kiss, still inside the restaurant. The fun part starts now, I had never actually been kissed, so my instinct was to stay there and do nothing. I told him I didn't feel comfortable doing this in front of the other people in the restaurant. We got outside and he asked if he could kiss me, I said yes, because of course I was all curious to explore now. We took a walk and kissed some more. Then he started to get really excited (and me scared, no need to say I am a virgin) but I stopped him saying I was tired and needed to go home to do some work (it was sunday). He kissed me goodbye, and when I got home I actually felt gross from all this kissing. I do admit I even cried a bit because I did not feel anything at all from those kisses.
How ironic all of this is now.
So yesterday I went and looked him up on facebook, when surprise surprise, he has a girlfriend (living in another country - I'm in the UK, he and the girl are from Greece), who not only looks like me but likes the same stuff, movies, music, etc...
Now I'm a bit creeped out and don't want to see this idiot again, but he is going to message me back soon and I wanted to have some clever comeback instead of just ignoring him. I also feel terribly bad for the poor girl but I don't know what to do.
Any thoughts or opinions are welcome!
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I've heard of many guys sneaking online for this stuff. It really sucks when it happens and this I'm sure totally ruined your first kiss experience. There are stories of guys going on dates where they'd catch the woman pulling off her wedding ring in the car or being married, etc. One girl even contacted me wanting to hook up because her boyfriend's away. It's not a settling feeling at all.
Unfortunately there is not much you can really do. I've caught gold diggers, players, "catfish," and other such people by simple things like typing their phone number into facebook. It's really scary these days where people sneak online.
Here's the thing, you do not have to message him back. I honestly suggest you block all communications with him. I'm certainly hoping you never gave him your address. Just block communications. Block his phone number, dating profile, etc. It's seriously for the best. You'll probably want to not date for a while but hopefully you can jump back in.0
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