The question says it all. I'm a single parent and I don't have issues. I'm not with the father because I chose not to be because he has way too many issues of his own and he's not in our lives. I got pregnant through trickery (yes, it does happen), and I couldn't live with aborting my child. But I'm emotionally and psychologically healthy, I'm intelligent, ambitious and a good, independent parent. But do guys hear "single parent" and think I'm bound to have more issues than a women who doesn't have kids?
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To be honest, I get the feeling a bit. But I usually ignore it.
I think this is because, in many cases, I've known single mothers who went out with totally obvious douchebags because they were "hot like those jersey shore guys", and then wonder why he jumped the gun the moment she got pregnant. Like, she should at least take some responsibility for the guys she was looking at. A much less aggressive guy might not have the "sexy edge" she's looking for, but "edge" is basically synonymous with drama.
You don't go out with this:
... and then expect some happy stable relationship.
That being said, that's just my past experiences kicking in, which is why I remind myself to treat each girl as a totally different case.
Another thing that crops up is the fact that women often have no libido once they have a kid. So if you're in a relationship with a single mother whose ex cheated on her or something, it feels like she actually had feelings for THAT GUY, and is keeping you around to help her raise THAT GUY's kid. It's a rather insulting predicament to be in. But again, I judge each case on an individual basis.1
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