I finally realized that this is my problem. I am a complete (excuse my language) pussy. I am fearful of rejection, completely scared of it. I fear of what happens after asking and being rejected by the girl. I worry about what will happen to our friendship and what others will think. So, I, in all my 15 1/2 years on this earth have been single and never got the courage to ask. I now feel like so many girls have given up on me, and I don't want this girl I like currently to give up on me either.
Right now in my current situation, I feel like a girl likes me, but I don't want to jump to conclusions. There have been many signs and if you're trying to help convince me she does then you can look through some of my past questions. I also think everyone but me knows she likes me, I was recently invited to a girl's party because of her. The boyfriend of the girl (who invited me) told me this today of how I was invited because the girl was invited too. (What's weird is the other people invited because a person is if their GF was going to be there.) Unfortunately, she won't be able to go so it won't be as intended. This may be obvious to others, but my brain refuses to jump to conclusions she likes me no matter how many signs are shown. (As I said if you want to see more signs, just look through my questions. DECIPHER THESE TEXTS IS AN IMPORTANT ONE)
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But, let's say I do accept and know she likes me this is the main meat of the question for you skimmers who don't want to read it all. I don't know what to do next, I really still am scared no matter how much I convince myself she likes me. II'm in High School, so not many people ask to be a GF/BF asking them out on a date. How should I ask her out, as in being my GF? And before I can even get to this, how can I overcome my fear of rejection? I do love myself and have some confidence in case you will say that, but I am not confident at things I have never done before.
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You are a good person with a good heart. I can see that... That is why you are afraid of rejection. You are in tune with your heart. Never lose that... Keep your innocence no matter what society says.
The key to overcoming rejection is viewing your fellow man in a health light. People DO have the ability to destroy you inside. Some people who are very sensitive can be scarred for life by mere words, I know, I was one of them.
If you are able to overcome, and adopt a healthy view of your fellow man (And woman) the last step is the hardest, and that is to just go for it. Unfortunately, this is the hardest thing to do: Actually manning up and telling a woman how you feel, putting your heart, literally, in her hands to do with as she pleases. She may stomp on it and scar you, depending on how healthy your emotions are.
This is the part many adults even struggle with, because, when they were your age, they internalized their struggles and never actually told a woman they fancied how they felt about her.
Here's a thing: Women LOVE a man who is confident enough to tell them how they feel. You can see many girls on this very website asking "What does it mean if..." Because the guy never tells her how he really feels in his heart.
It's called confidence, and women love it. But you must step out of your fearful comfort zone and expose your soul to potential pain and fear. You just gotta do it. Or you'll be forty years old with the exact same fears, only more cemented, because you have obsessed over them for the last twenty five years.
You;re going to hate me, but you're still young. If you can remain a virgin until you find the woman you want to marry, you will be better off. There's so much for you to yet experience.
But the first step is telling her honestly, fully, how you feel.
Don't let another one, "Let you go."1
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