Been dating a guy for a a few month, but I've known him for 25 years. We've been really good friends that past 4 years, but ever since dating him, he won't return my texts until the next day if then nor will he call. I know he sees them cuz the seen stamp shows up. We are in a LDR, we live 3 hours from eachother. Two nights ago, I text him asking what time next wednesdsy he will be in my town. We are going to spend wednesdsy evening together, then we are both going out of town for Thanksgiving. by the way , he is originally from my town and his family still lives here. Anyway, he didn't answer my text. Finally tonight, i text him..."if ur not in town by 8pm, we won't be having a date night. I will meet u at x restaurant by 6. There... plans are now made. by the way, this shit is getting old" He text me back all pissed and making me feel bad, calling it a "hate gram" maybe it was
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You did nothing wrong here and I say that as a relationship coach with years of experience in this arena. Here are the basics for why I say that:
First and foremost, you both deserve equal consideration in the areas of communication and it's one-sided. You initiate and he responds when we damn well pleases.
Second, his response calling it a hate game is putting the responsibility squarely on you which is garbage considering he was able to be incognito prior to that.
Now--it's common for men to call women emotional or to get on women when they're doing nothing more than inquiring about time, commitments, communications, etc. What's worse, it's not uncommon for women to feel bad or even question themselves when they shouldn't. You teach people how to treat you and if you allow him to make you feel bad or to criticize your inquiries, you're saying he's right and you're wrong. Stick to your guns. Don't let him have his cake (sex, your companionship, etc.) and eat it too (talk to you and see you on his terms)0