So I've been with my bf for 1 1/2 years and we've been living together for a few months now but his dog is making me hate my life. she's a Chihuahua pomeranian mix and its like I always come second to her. She pees and poops on the carpet even when we just took her out or we leave the doggy door open. She steals food while your eating it. she's very dominant so I can't get another animal.. she was mean to my cat before it died and my friend brought her dog over once and she attacked it. My bf gives her treats even when she's just been bad and its not dog treats. He gives her our food.. which im broke and im the one who buys a lot of the food. She sleeps in our bed. He won't even kick her out of the bed when we have sex and if I try to ever push her off the bed he freaks out on me as if im abusing her. She won't listen to anyone except for my bf and even then she barely listens. She just had puppies too so he just let her piss and shit everywhere when she was pregnant. Then when she had the puppies he said she wasn't peeing on the floor anymore but I found out he was lying to me and laying newspapers down so she could go per inside and then he'd just clean them up so I wouldn't know.
He knows how all of it affects me but he does nothing about it. He has ptsd from the military and he got the dog when he left the military so he uses that as an excuse. He just tells me that she's his companion and baby and that she's not doing anything wrong.
He wants us to be a family but even when he gets home from work or when I get home from work he spends most of his time with her. We barely hang out anymore. It all just sucks and its really damaging our relationship.
So what do I do?
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There are two issues i see. 1: your man isn't treating you properly. 2: you dont have a relationship with the dog. It's pretty bad, dont get me wrong but here's the thing about dogs and men. The dog will unconditionally love him, and has been there. So the dog ain't leaving. If you try and put a wedge there, not only will the dog respond accordingly, ie: poop and pee, dogs are territorial. But your man will resent you. You need to focus on your relationship with the dog, since your man is to pussy to do it himself. If you aren't willing to do the work, then see where your priorities are. You can't change a man, if you try, your destined for pain. Instead, figure out the middle way, compromise.0
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