Is it selfish for me to try pursuing any romantic relationships right now? My original ambition for working myself so hard was so that I could get myself established as a nice eligible bachelor and be ready to provide for the woman I choose. Good news is I have more money than I know what to do with now, but it seems like until I finish gradschool and settle into a less consuming job, my workload may be preventing me from even getting close to a woman.
I always like to be that guy who responds to texts fast, has time to set up surprises, comes up with exciting things to do, and makes a woman feel like she's the prize of my life. Unfortunately, I'm finding that at this phase in my life, I'm so pressed for time, and so exhausted all the time, that being the man I feel I ought to be in a relationship seems impossible without throwing away the financial security I'm trying to establish. Back when I was in undergrad school and just working part time, I was unbelievably witty, sweet, engaged, and thoughtful in any relationship, but now I'm afraid of seeming tired, boring, and disinterested due to my lack of energy and prep-time. =(
I don't want a woman to feel undervalued because I don't put the time and energy into a relationship that she deserves, and casual dating is out of the question for me. Should I just wait a few years and jump back into the game when I feel up to the task of doing things properly?
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Find a gf who's equally as busy as you. That way neither of you will feel guilty about being unavailable and will equally appreciate the little time you do get to spend together.1