For the past few days I've been constantly bothered by the knowledge that I've never been in a relationship. At all. Nearing the age of 19 I have never had a girlfriend or boyfriend of any kind. No one has ever expressed interest in me. No one has ever made any offers. In addition to this, I still haven't had my first kiss or any offers for one, nor have I ever had sex, needless to say. I feel like something is wrong with me. I've been told that I'm a good/decent looking guy as well as that I have a wonderful personality. My friends are of course telling me that I don't need to worry and that I'm attractive and a sweet/great guy, but I feel like I'm not good enough for anyone based on the evidence. I just don't know what to do at this point. It feels incredibly hopeless to see people younger than me going on dates, kissing, and being in relationships when I've never even had so much as an offer or a hint. My best friend has told me it's a dumb thing to be bothered by and that I shouldn't worry, but I can't help but feel like I'm worth less because of it. My best friends love me, my family loves me, but I've never met someone who had any interest in a relationship. What do you think about this? Is there something I should be concerned about? Am I upset over something stupid? Do I need to post more details about myself? I don't know.. Help?
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Sounds like you just need a little more confidence in yourself. Hate to say it but our messed up society practically dictates that guys be the instigators. As a guy, you can't wait for someone to approach you. You have to show interest in someone else and approach them. Don't wait for offers, get out there and show you like someone. Show you're emotionally available for a relationship by letting go and expressing your attraction to someone else.
Do you have any crushes? If not, then just wait. You should only get in a relationship with a girl/guy you like in return. Don't just sit around waiting to hop on board with the first person who shows any interest in you. There's nothing wrong with you. Everyone is shy. There are probably people who are crushing on you but who are too shy and unsure if you like them in return to tell you.
Keep your head up, find someone you like, and ask them out.2