Hi, basically I'm 18 and the guy im seeing is 25. It seems a steep age, but I act like a 20 year old and he acts like a 21 year old realistically so we suit very well.
My only problem is it's been 3 months and I'm still stuck in the 'seeing each other label. I should express, we've attended family birthdays, weddings, he's travelled up to my uni every other weekend (before I dropped out) and I came home every other weekend without fail, we spend practically every day with each other if we can; I'm talking Friday , Saturday, Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, then we have a break Wednesday and Thursday as he works night shift (as well as a day job). So a lot has happened in 3 months in terms of events and the amount of time we've spent with each other compared to regular 'couples' it's like we've been together for 6 months. But I'm still stuck in the 'seeing each other label' and I'm worried now.
I've expressed my worry before (after one month) and he explained to me that he is totally committed to me, were exclusive and he cares very much for me, he just wants his next official relationship to last (as in he wants to marry his next girlfriend) so he didn't want to rush anything. I understood agreed Id wait until we were both ready for labels, but with every passing day it upsets me more and more that I'm not his girlfriend.
We basically are boyfriend and girlfriend anyway so why can't it just be made official already? It's painful for me to hear him say to people 'she's not my girlfriend' because although I know he cares and were exclusive to other people it sounds as if he's saying 'I don't care about her' he does tell them 'we're seeing each other' but it still seems casual to an outsider.
It worries me that if we've gone through all of these events and spend so much time together and he still hasn't made it official yet will he ever? Is this guy actually going to commit? Or am I just wasting my breath, filling a gap until someone better comes along? PLEASE help!
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I think he is shitting you miss. Within a month I can decide if the girl is marriage material or not. If he loves you he would be begging you to be official miss. He is ashamed of you miss or he wants to stay open for better things to come down the pike in the sex department.
We had one pink G@G'er here that complained her bf would not marry her even after 8 years living together. She told him she wanted to marry very early on in their 'live in' arrangement. Every time she talked to him about it he got mad. Now 8 years later she has wasted a chunk of her life on a liar. I think you will be in the same boat miss. I'd advise to move on and find true love. Not a lying shithead miss.
Sure, you can force him miss, but he has shown his metal. He would just tell you what you want to hear and dump you at his earliest convenience. Good luck!0