I'm very shy (but open up a little when I get to know someone better), and according to many people I'm rather kind and sweet (I wouldn't like to say it myself because it sounds conceited). I've never had a boyfriend, and a friend told me yesterday that if I keep on being this shy and quiet, I won't ever get a boyfriend, and that guys don't like sweet girls, they like loud and bold girls.. This made me very upset since she has had like 2 boyfriends and all the guys love her, and she's very loud. But she's sometimes sarcastic and mean, which confuses me.. Do guys like girls who are like my friend? If so, I won't ever get a boyfriend.. ;-;
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Trust me, you're perfect. Dammit, I wish I had a girlfriend like you! Shy girls are totally my thing! They're just so adorable! I actually prefer girls like you. I hate girls like your friend (who in turn sounds like the stereotypical dumb blonde. Sorry if I offended your friend, but I had to tell the truth xDD)
And seriously? "You won't ever get a boyfriend"? Trust me, although the process of getting a bf (for you) requires patience, the results almost cancel the patience you invested, because (in general terms) someone who likes and appreciate shy, introverted girls are more intelligent than those who don't (this is because normal people want instant gratification, and people who like introverts know that there's more to it). Your friend is only wanted because she basically throws herself at guys, who see her as an easy target.
And no, I'm not being overly nice. If I hated you, I'd show it. I'd rather show someone the ugly truth than letting them live a beautiful lie.
Anyway, as the perfect archetype of a shy guy myself, I suggest you look at your friend and adapt yourself to her without changing who you are. It sounds complicated but it's very simple when you do it. And in the end, you'll find a bf. Believe me, it's way easier for you than it is for us guys (that's what you get when society keeps get held back by the "gender roles" BS)1