I personally, don't I don't think anybody gets to stand there and make a list and check it twice and make sure they
look the way they think they should. Maybe it's because
I struggle with self confidence, but everything I do, I do
for myself. Because, I know when I look in the mirror
I have to be happy with what I see and I have to like the
way I look and do what looks best on me. I can't worry
if it's acceptable to men or not, because how I feel about
myself is more important then what he wants. That's
just how I feel. And, that goes for everybody else
as well. We have to be happy with ourselves first,
that's what matters the most.
I personally don't think someone gets a say in
a persons: Height, weight, hair length, hair color,
hair style, makeup (that includes lipstick and stuff),
jewelery, pirecings, tattoos, eye color, clothes,
shoes, underwear, perfume/cologne, etc etc. We
get to decide that, not the significant other.
So, what do you think? Do we have the right or not?
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It's not right to be controlling, but at the same time, it's naive to not recognize that physical attraction is what humans need, to a point, in one another and that it's okay to keep yourself healthy and make the best of your features, for yourself, and also for your partner as well. I would never leave my girlfriend if she, for example, got stretch marks or extra weight from pregnancy or if she got cellulite, scars or whatever - I love her for her. Yet while it's her personality that won me over, it's also that she's my type - a tall brunette with innocent brown eyes. And you know what? She likes me for me, but she also like guys with long hair (for a man) and a stubble. So I keep myself that way. She likes the way I look in black, and so I wear black often. She doesn't demand those things, I just do them 'cause I see them as a normal part of a relationship and making an effort and keeping attraction alive. There are physical flaws that she thinks she has, that I find cute. Insecurities that she had when we first met, that I helped her deal with. I think when you love someone, you help make them feel good in their skin, and you'll love them as they get old, but at the same time it's good to keep making an effort to be attractive, both inside and out.0