Let's start off with I'm 16 and I'm pushing 400 lbs but I mean I don't think I look it at all and same with others I even get complements on how well I carry my weight, I really don't have a lot of experience with girls with pretty much anything I mean I'm not new to making out and what not but everything else its just kinda... yeah , anyway I really don't care about any of that anyway (sexual ) I can honestly say I just want a emotional and spiritual experience with a girl one that is so connected and intertwined does that sound like too much? Pretty much all my time would be devoteted to her I don't have a lot of friends Im talking count all of them on one hand , now granted I do have standards its not to much to ask you ain't got to put on make up do your hair , all I ask is basic hygiene.. again I ask is that too much , I don't judge anyone because the way I see it is I'm in no room at all to judge , I'm an open book so no secrets , I have a good sense of humor I mean I can make almost anyone laugh , I'm faithful , like why cheat your with that person for a reason what am I doing wrong? If I you want to ask more to make a hypothesis please feel free
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I think your question is... "How do I get in a position to meet someone that loves me and that I can love back?" assuming that is the question I have some thoughts for you.
I always tell people, how can you expect someone to love you, if you don't love yourself. Now I am not saying that you don't love yourself, I don't know you. However I am asking you to take a step and think about if you are confident and if not, why not. Then I want you to think about what you need to do to gain confidence.
Secondly you need to keep in mind a relationship is about balance between two people. Both of you need to offer things to the other. If one of you is TOO STRONG or TOO WEAK then things tip the wrong way. You both need to be able to give and receive from one another. Do you feel that you can do that, or are you just going to be taking? Or just giving? If you are always taking eventually the other feels they are taken advantage of. If you are always giving eventually you feel you are been taken advantage of. Are you in the position to give and take? If not think about what that means and you need to do to change.
You mentioned weight... so I will too. My friend you are too big. NOW FINISH READING before you get upset :-) I am 6'7" and weigh around 275 lbs. I was injured very badly and put on a lot of weight during that time. Because I am so tall I do carry weight well, but the truth of the matter was I was too big, unhealthy and I knew it. So I did something about it. I took baby steps at first. I started walking three miles a day, 6 days a week. I also stopped eating fast food except for one fast food meal a week. I started losing weight and started feeling better. So then I stepped up and started working out more and stopped eating fast food. I lost more weight and took bigger steps. In the end I lost 75 lbs and am in the best shape of my entire life. I am ripped, can run. climb, lift, etc. This is something else to think about. You can do it!0
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