Not a question, but just something I found then which I reckon would help a fair few guys out there. I wouldn't worry about buying and of the sh*t they advertise, but this guy seems to know what he's doing. Here's the link.
This is him chatting to some random chick on the street -
And here's some more advice from him -
Its pretty good hey. Seems to know what he's talking about.
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Pretty good video of him approaching on the street.
Firstly, his body language is solid. He leaves enough space between them and doesn't try to follow her when she starts to turn away (that'll blow you out very fast as it's creepy).
Secondly, he was calm. This is seriously underestimated. If you're nervous then the girl will be nervous as she's wondering why you would feel the need to be nervous since you're just talking.
There's nothing wrong with having something in mind (especially the conversation starter) but it can be a problem if routines/conversational material becomes a crutch. It shouldn't be a problem to hold a conversation after some practice. It really doesn't even have to be tremendously interesting especially in the day time. You just have to find things to tease her about or just make interesting/funny comments.
I'm somewhat weary of these "excuse" openers in the daytime. The problem is that when you talk to women in the daytime, the immediate reaction is "Why are you talking to me?". Women aren't oblivious and they can tell when you're trying to transition to normal conversation. There can sometimes be the sense that something is "off" like you're hiding your real intentions. The critical moment in that video was where he says "I detect an accent" and moves off the cafe topic. Sometimes they'll just say "Yeah, I'm from England, but I really have to go" and walk off at this point. Many times there's not a great transition at all so it can sound very clunky when you go from asking for directions to something personal.
Personally, I tend to go for a very direct conversational opener like "Hey, I just saw you from over there and thought you were just too cute not to come say hi to" or something in the environment "Hey, you look like a coffee connoisseur/food critic/book critic/whatever. Recommend me something". The benefit of a direct line is that there's no potentially awkward transition and the intentions are perfectly clear; you find the girl cute and want to get to know her.
Anyway, the key is not so much in what you say but how you say it and the non verbals like body language and voice tonality. If you're keen on this then give it a go! It's going to be very tough the first few times if you're not used to talking to strangers on the street. Stick at it though cause it's great meeting women during the daytime.0