I was with the same guy for so long and missed out on life. Right now I've been single for a couple years and I still don't want to date anyone.
I just wanna keep making FRIENDS finally... I went so long focused on my toxic relationship that I never made time for friendships that could have been.
I have no life experiences. Sure, it's not like i'm out there doing stuff all the time, but I'm out there more than I ever have in my entire life.
There's a lot of newness to my single life and I can't just cram it into every day. I do try to make the best of each day more now than before, though.
I used to go out less than once a month, sometimes 2 months would go by... now it's all the time, I really try to. I enjoy it.
I worry about my looks fading, as I know I am an attractive girl and always have easily attracted men. But it doesn't do anything for me anymore. (I appreciate it and would be lying if I said I wanted it to stop, so I'm not saying that)
But I'm worried I'll wake up one day and wish I had "gotten out there and dated".
I suppose the argument to that is that I could jump into a relationship now and wake up one day and wish I had "gotten out there, made friends and had fun and life experiences as an individual in the universe"
Can anyone relate or offer words of wisdom? In the past, I had gotten lost in my relationship... I also worry I will do that again if I get into one too soon because I used to never ever accept plans.
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There is more to life than just relationships. When we're younger (I'm 21), it seems like that's the most important thing, especially for people like me who have very little dating experience. It sounds like you're on a good path. You went through a long period in a relationship, and now you're decompressing from that experience. I've read that it takes people twice as long as the relationship lasted to fully get over it. You're probably still in the after effects of your toxic pairing.
Anyhow, don't sweat it. Your looks won't fade that fast. Women who eat right and train with weights can stay youthful into their 40s. Unfortunately, the issue you face is having kids. If you want them, you'll have to meet someone in the next 5 years or so. Good luck :-)1