My boyfriend is having suicidal thoughts an I'm scared! He says that one day he was holding a knife to his throat wondering if anyone cared an it's scaring me a lot! An when I confronted him he said I don't know if anyone cares an I think the only one who cares is my best friend. I feel like he's pushing me away an I'm scared he's going to actually harm himself. What do I do? I'm so confused and afraid of what the future is going to bring! I want to break up with him like my guy friends are saying but my boyfriend said he wouldn't have anything/anyone to live for anymore an he loves me and how if I left him he wouldn't know what to do!
- Do I dump him?Vote A
- Do I stay with him an try to battle my problems an help him?Vote B
- Do I keep lying to him?Vote C
- Do I confront him in a different way?Vote D
- OtherVote E
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I've been through shit like this and trust me, he needs help. Breaking up with him would be dangerous, true, but the fact that you're scared and clearly want out isn't doing anything for him. After seeking help for him, the next thing you need to do is to stop being afraid. Odds are he's already picked up on how he's making you feel and may well end up trying to justify that he's doing it to spare you the burden of having to deal with him.
Third, you need to forget the fact that he's your boyfriend, romantic lover, whatever you want to call it and remember that he's a human being first that wants not to be the object of someone's attachment, but to experience a deep sense of love. The kind of love that comes from "I want you to be happy" rather than "I want you to make me happy."1