She started working at our office a few months ago, and I didn't really notice her at first. She grew on me in a huge way. Her personality is delightful, and we have a ton of common passions. Basically we have the same perspective on almost everything.
She loves to be teased/argued with... we have this ridiculous banter/chemistry at work sometimes. There isn't any doubt in my mind that we'd make an incredible match.
Here's the catch: She already has a boyfriend. Honestly, whatever, they always do - so I didn't think much of it. I went ahead and told her how I feel about her, and we talked about it for a bit, but nothing has really happened. I told her I was going to move on because she wasn't ready, and she told me "he's what I need right now" or something like that.
I've met the dude, and seen them interact. There isn't any of the passion/chemistry that her and I have. There is a whole other level of energy that we share between us - and I desperately want to bridge that gap and make us a real thing.
What's your advice? Should I just let it go? Why?
Should I pursue other girls and make her jealous?
Should I keep making our chemistry solid, and just kiss her out of the blue sometime? When the moment seems right?
I don't want a cheater, but I want her all to myself. What are your thoughts? Can you help me get this girl to understand how incredible we'd be together? Or am I out of luck? Tell me your reasoning.
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Well... I am kind of in the same situation. But I love my boyfriend dearly and would never dream of cheating on him or leaving him for another man even if we do vibe really well together. I say keep your distance. This can turn into a very ugly and dramatic love triangle. If they're not meant for each other they may break up. But that's not your concern. Date other girls and get your mind off of her.1
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