I'm an 18-year-old girl, not the hottest one on campus, but I do have a nice slim body with some curves and a cute face. Nothing super fancy, nothing ugly. I'm a bit shy in groups, but I talk to a lot of people, have some very good friends (some of whom were very surprised when I told them I'd never had a boyfriend - just so you know it's not just me lol) and am not a total brat either. In short, I'd say I'm a decent person. Still, I've never had a boyfriend or even anyone ask me out/try to kiss me/make a statement that suggests anything of the sort. Sometimes I get to know a guy and I have a feeling that things are going in that direction and then, nothing. It's not like I'm desperate for a boyfriend, but I'd like at least some appreciation, you know?
I've been trying to think of reasons for this, but the only things I've been able to come up with are that I, one, am rather passive about stuff like this (I'd never say to a guy "Hey, you wanna go out with me?") and two, I never go to parties. Maybe I'm too stupid to pick up hints? I really am confused about this.
Do you guys have any opinions on this? Has this happened to you or a friend of yours? Thanks in advance!
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Part of the attraction needs to be you showing interest back. This shyness is probably a huge reason. Guys are probably indicating interest but mainly checking to see if you respond back. If you remain "passive" you fall into the "wallflower" category for them and they just assume you'll just keep taking all their attention and not giving it back meaning you are not interested in them.
Get into the habit and making it a point to show you're interested and assume all your "passiveness" is a no answer. If you do nothing, nothing will happen like it's been for you. Also don't do all these "subtle hints" either. Guys will either remain unaware of your "hints" or if they do see you giving a "subtle hint" will see it as insecurity and be turned off by it. If any of your approaches have even a 1% chance of being misinterpreted it won't be regarded as any form of approach.4