I have a lot of pressure to get married, to be honest I have never really had even one succesful dating experience. So I am giving in to being set up by my parents. The last guy I fell in love with (the only guy I really fell for) rejected me after a yr of us getting close and it was due to me being older than him (4yrs). I guess I made a mistake there but we did everything for each other and it was just right, I guess if he really liked me... the age wouldn't have mattered.
Anyway, after never managing to find what I was looking for. I think I should give this guy a chance and give up on (perhaps) unrealistic dreams.
I am always told I'm very beautiful and a nice person. I am intelligent and I guess on the surface I seem fine, but there must be something wrong with me since I am 26 and single... ready to settle for someone I'm just not feeling it for. He is a great guy, a fun guy but I just don't feel anything. I always wanted a guy taller, I know it seems superficial but looks matter to an extent. I was never out to find george clooney but I always wanted to find someone who would compliment me and actually someone who I found very sexy (regardless of what others thought). But alas, I am alone.. as always. This new guy is fun and talks a lot but I sometimes just don't find our conversations interesting. He is a great guy and my parents keep pressuring me too since they inrtoduced us. I said he was a little short, my mum shot me down and said well his personality matters. I said I want someone I find wonderful, she said you can't have too many high expectations. I guess by now she is right, everyone around me is hitched... I know I can't find someone easily and perhaps it just doesn't exist so why should I forego a great guy who might be ok enough? Any help on changing my mentality so that I give him a fair chance?
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If you settle for someone who you're just not feeling it with, you're gonna regret it later in life. It's not going to work, it will make you miserable. It's also very selfish, as he deserves someone who likes him for real.
Don't let your parents or expectations of society pressure you into a marriage that is not based on you both really really REALLY wanting to be married to each other. It will make you bitter and unhappy and one day you WILL leave him. You are the one who has to live with the consequences of your choices, so make sure your choices are your own. Marriage is difficult even when people want to be married, when they don't it's just a sad pretend.
If you're having a really hard time finding someone, why not look for help in figuring out what it really is that is stopping you from finding a guy. Get a dating coach and take an honest look at your life, the vibes you send off to other people, your communication skills etc. Are you approachable? Are you living a life another person would want to be a part of? What places do you go to to meet people? What can you do to improve you dating life? Are you desperate? (Desperation drives people away)... You're WAY too young to give up on love. You just need to figure out what it is that isn't working for you at the moment, and change it. Good luck!0